Mindfulness for New Mamas
“One of the best ways that we can take care of our mental health is through practicing mindfulness” – Sally Kellett
"Through a little mindful awareness, I have been able to begin to surrender that need." - Patricia Seqeuira
The Struggle is REAL
I had significant struggles with breastfeeding through repeated bouts of mastitis, exclusive pumping for 6 weeks and a tongue tie release for Jaya, and I knew that giving up would probably make life so much easier for the both of us. However, I just knew in my gut that this was a challenge I was willing to face. There was one particularly horrendous night when she was on and off the boob between 1am and 4am and I finally broke.
The next morning there was something inside of me that told me to keep pushing. But something needed to change. So I surrendered to it.
I stopped trying to control the outcome, and just made sure that however she needed to be fed, I was ready and willing to do it. Many months later, breastfeeding has become easy and it’s because instead of giving in to the mental strain, I made plans around it.
Why Self-care isn’t just a buzzword
Here are my TOP TIPS for being more mindful as a new mama:
- Disconnect from social media. I joined mother’s groups on Facebook and would spend hours reading what other mums were doing with their babies who were the same age as mine. The old saying that comparison is the thief of joy is NO BLOODY JOKE. Once I disconnected not only did I have more time, but I was also learning about my baby and her quirks and characteristics.
- Be present. It is incredibly easy to worry about the washing, vacuuming, dinner etc. I would sit on the floor with my new baby and run through all the other things I could be getting done. The absolute truth is that those chores do get done eventually, and when you are present with your baby or with your partner you are vibing with the universe in a way that’s just not possible when you’re stuck on the hamster wheel in your head all the time. Watch the way they play with their toys, the way they create sounds, the look in their eyes as they feed. It’s true magic.
- Have some time away from your baby. This is hard for many women. It was definitely hard for me because my mother never took a break, she has five daughters and worked tirelessly ALL THE TIME. So when I ask for a break, and I just have the one daughter, guilt creeps in. However, from first-hand experience I can assure you I’m a much more joyous person to be around after I’ve had a little break. When Jaya has her first nap of the day, I’ve committed to sitting on my bed for 10 minutes to meditate. Nap time is PRECIOUS, but dishes can wait. There will be days when this isn’t an option and the next best thing is to take the baby for a walk. Bubs gets to marvel at trees and your endorphins will get going.
- Make an appointment. Pump or prep a bottle for the baby and get out of the house! My first goal was to go to morning tea at my sister’s or Mum’s once a week, sans baby. I also regularly see an acupuncturist who keeps me tuned up. But even just wandering aimlessly around a shopping centre, hitting the gym, or making a coffee date is excellent. And let me tell you, when you get back to your baby you will be so excited to see them. Parenting really is 24/7 (and why didn’t I realise this beforehand?!) so taking two or three hours out of the week reminds you of who you are as a woman.
- Spend some time writing down affirmations. This will help to refocus your energy on what is truly important to you. It’s also super easy to repeat affirmations when you start to feel like parenting is becoming relentless or even just to shift your energy into joy. The law of attraction can get you vibing again in no time so repeat them with conviction.
The Road Ahead
There will come a time where you feel an energetic shift and it becomes essential to go further; reading books, using apps, reading blogs like this, won’t be enough. That’s when you need to find a teacher or a class that will help extend you further. When you’re ready, you’ll know.